Men I Attract

I have positive energy that exudes off of me and infects those around me. Or so I’m told. I consider myself best in the world at complimenting others. Translation: excellent flirt. I suck at racket sports and fiscal responsibility is not my forte, but when it comes to flirting, bring. it. on.  Add in my pretty eyes and eyelash batting abilities, and one would assume I have heaps of wonderful potential suitors. But mostly I have heaps of not potential suitors. Why do I attract such weirdos?

Is it just that I am willing to actually talk to these guys, giving the impression that they stand a chance? Is my positive energy so magnetic that it attracts everyone, and there are just more weirdos than normal people in this city? Maybe it’s my smile or the fact that I generally want to be a light in someone’s day. Or a combination of all of the above; but whatever it is, they are flocking. So how, exactly, do you attract the right flavor?

For starters, it’s important to be very specific regarding what your flavor is. What do you find attractive in a mate? For me, a guy must have a job I respect, work out, and cannot simultaneously break more than two of my apparel rules. Preferably, he exudes a little rock ‘n roll. I’m not attracted to men who have more free time than me. Please be busy. And easy going as I’m high strung enough for the both of us. He cannot be a pushover, and in fact, I need to be bossed around a bit. If he’s too easy-going, I’ll trample him like a heard of Irish rugby players and leave him smashed to the curb. Busy, easy going, a dash of bossy and a little rock ‘n roll is a tall order, but far from impossible.

Next, put yourself (um, myself) in the position to meet these people. The guy I heart probably isn’t hanging out at Starbucks on 23rd and 9th in the middle of a Monday morning, so neither should I. If I choose where to write, dine, exercise, etc. with a little more strategy, I’ll likely be around the people I want to attract. (Important: You never meet men you’re interested in on your couch, so pack up your laptop and put on some lipstick.) If you love guys in bands, you best be at a lot of concerts, record stores and Williamsburg. If you heart bankers, fancy a Wall Street happy hour. Positioning. That’s it. My energy and smile can attract them, I just need to position myself with a little more purpose.

And I’ve answered my own question. Some things actually are that simple.

Emma Dinzebach

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