Tinsley Mortimer

Some women fantasize about a Cinderella-esque destiny, others make it their goal to conquer the professional world and a few hope to make it big as a singer, writer, actor or artist. Then there are women, oftentimes 20 or 30 somethings, who strive for the elusive title — and all that comes with it — of a leading socialite. The main question regarding this, of course, is how does one actually become a socialite?

Various outlets, including New York Magazine, New York Social Diary and Allure Magazine, have compiled lists of current and former mega-socialites. But what qualities, characteristics and factors does a socialite make? How do they decide who makes the cut?

We’ve scoured these lists of leading socialites, many of which include women such as Jackie O., Olivia Palermo, Tinsley Mortimer, Pippa Middleton and, begrudgingly, Paris Hilton to determine the characteristics they all share. Based on that information, we’ve created a checklist of four qualities a woman must possess to be crowned a true socialite.

Money

It’s crass to say it, but a socialite has got to be loaded. You simply can’t wear today’s hottest designers or go to the most expensive parties without a bloated bank account. Oftentimes, the money doesn’t belong to the socialites themselves. While it’s not always the case, their lifestyles are almost always funded by their parents or a lover. At least until they’ve built their name up enough to become successful “entrepreneurs” themselves.

Connections

A socialite’s address book is one of her most prized possessions. After all, it’s her key to party and gala invitations and meet ups with other big names. And, in order for a socialite to be talked about, she’s got to be seen out and about. And it’s kind of circular: the more she’s talked about, the more connections she’ll build.

Confidence

Have you ever seen a socialite who doesn’t stand tall and proud? Confidence is vital to the survival of a socialite. Without it, she’ll be far more likely to crumble under criticism. Not to mention, confidence makes any man or woman look more beautiful.

Looks

Again, this one’s crass, but an unattractive person just doesn’t bode well under the media spotlight. The good news is that socialites, as discussed above, have many dollars at their disposal. This allows for copious trips to the plastic surgeon and also secures the very best style and beauty team (heaven forbid a wrinkle or pimple appear).

By Wendy Rose Gould