Paris

Fashion wants to be taken seriously and I want people to take it as seriously as I do. Psychologists consider it a mere capitalist manipulation of the masses. Economists think of it as “the opposite of rational”. I disagree with all of them. I believe those who don’t take fashion seriously are misunderstanding what fashion truly is. However, I have my own doubts about fashion’s ability (or inability) to send a cohesive message to the world about its credo. There are inconsistencies not only in what we understand fashion to be; is it the product or is it the change? There are also inconsistencies in what fashion stands for. Perhaps this is why it is so misunderstood. Here are just few of the fashion inconsistencies that trouble me:

FASHION’S TERMINOLOGY IS SO MISLEADING.

The shows presented at fashion weeks in New York, Milan, and Paris are considered prêt-à-porter (ready to wear) but some designers use these opportunities to display only their creative skills as a marketing ploy for their brands. In other words, they use these shows to debut collections that serve more as an art form making a statement, rather than clothing that’s truly “prêt-à-porter.” I know it’s hard to shock anyone on the streets of New York City, but I believe my jaw might drop at the sight of anyone wearing this.

FASHION SAYS ONE THING, BUT THEN DOES THE EXACT OPPOSITE.

Fashion magazines—self-declared progressive voices that are supposed to promote change and empower women—seem to be completely gaga these days over a prince charming fairytale and EVERY SINGLE OUTFIT that Meghan Markle, Duchess of Sussex wears. Isn’t that just a little hypocritical? How exactly are these magazines empowering girls? I am not joining the ranks of those saying Meghan Markle was a bad feminist for giving up her job to pursue this marriage. I am only saying that the fashion industry is not doing her, or us women, any favors diminishing powerful women into nothing more than fashion influencers. I understand their motivation to also sell products featured within their pages, but I wish they’d quit pretending they are doing it to save us.

FASHION IS SPELLBOUND BY STREETWEAR.

I personally don’t understand what streetwear’s superpower is. I don’t think it’s an exaggeration to say that it’s taken over luxury fashion and that even chic preppy grandpa Ralph Lauren has not been safe from its influence. Virgil Abloh of Off-White fame and more recently named artistic director at Louis Vuitton men’s wear collection said, “Streetwear is what is worn on the street and it’s how real people wear clothes, sneakers with a dress, a hoodie—it’s mixing genres.” If the purpose is to democratize fashion, I am even more confused; how many people who flaunt “streetwear” on a daily basis can actually afford a rather simple looking blue anorak for $1390? If they can, I certainly don’t live on the right street.

I love fashion and I think the time has come for fashion to be taken seriously. It is economically and culturally significant and much can be learned by studying it through many different lenses. I believe there is truth to fashion’s lack of sense of humor, but if fashion wants people to quit laughing, then it’s time for fashion to address the emperor’s new clothes… season after season after season.

What do you think?

xx

So you want to spend the day acting like a Parisian? Perhaps you’re a bit of a Francophile looking to sate your French tastes. Maybe you’re dying for a vacation, but a trip to Eiffel Tower is out of your budget. Or, even better yet, you’re trying to plan the perfect date night for a special someone or your gal pals. Whatever your mission, we’re here to help.

Before we even start listing destinations and restaurants and events, let’s first cover a bit of ground, here. Parisians are a breed all their own. Similar to New Yorkers in many ways, sure, but very different in their own regard. If you want to aim for authenticity, consider nailing the “Parisian look.”

According to Marie Claire author Susie Moore, who lived in France, “It is all about the timeless, well-cut, and classic look – snug jeans, tailored blazers, classic trench coat, cashmere sweaters and little black dresses. They obsess over fabric too—it has to feel expensive (even if it’s not)!”

Those little details — like the French silk scarf hand-me-down from grandma or the effortless chignon – make all the difference.

Finally, you’ve got to nail the attitude, too. This cheeky article at Garance Dore insists there are a few keys to being a proper Parisian. For starters, you’ve got to turn your nose up a little bit at tourists, even if you’re a tourist yourself. Blend, walk with confidence, and act like you belong. Also adopt a “woe is the world” stance, and make an effort to engage in healthy complaining about the state of things these days. It’s the Parisian way to bond.

Another must: frankness. Flattery only gets you so far, but the cold hard truth shall set you free. And finally, you mustn’t go without a glass of wine in your hand for any extended period of time. It’s preferred that, whilst sipping, you passionately converse about current hot topics. A Parisian is always well versed. Mix in a little bit of that complaining and you’ll have it nailed, for sure.

Food and Drink

Now that you’ve got the commandments down, it’s time to go along your merry way. We recommend these three restaurants to start, but of course New York has plenty more to offer. We chose these restaurants because they’re not over-the-top expensive, but still promise comforting Parisian cuisine and the authentic charm of a neighborhood bistro.

La Mangeoire

1008 Second Ave. at 53rd Street
New York New York
212-759-7086

La Mangeoire is noted for its cozy, romantic charm and authentic French rustic charm. Since its inception 35 years ago, the food has consistently been ranked high by restaurant-goers. For a real bargain and delicious dining experience, try the lunch or dinner Prix Fixe, $25 and $45 per person, respectively.

Demarchelier Restaurant

50 E. 86th Street
New York New York
212-249-6300

Opened in 1978, Demarchelier Restaurant is another go-to for New Yorkers looking for a genuine French experience. They now offer a completely organic menu, in addition to their regular menu, which also makes it popular among the environmentally conscious.

Maison-Kayser

Multiple Locations – New York City

We’re putting Maison-Kayser on this list for several reasons. First, it’s an “authentic artisanal French Boulangerie.” That means the baked goods, including perfected French bread, are made and baked on site all day long. Second, because there are numerous locations, this is an accessible one for many. Consider dropping in for just desert, or opt for the full blown meal. P.S. They also deliver.

La Sirene

558 Broome Street
New York, NY 10013
212-925-3061

Finally, we must mention La Sirene. We’re particularly fond of their BYOB ($10 cork fee), and the menu is a delight. It’s “crafted to reflect the best of South France” and promises delectable bites thanks to in season, fresh ingredients.

Events and Destinations

Food out of the way, let’s discuss some other ways you can get your Parisian on in the Big Apple.

Metropolitan Museum of Art

This is a no brainer destination for both tourists and residents alike. To make it a truly French experience, swing by the French Impressionist exhibits and soak up the culture.

Jean-Claude Carrière Cine Salon

On Tuesdays through June and July, FIAF is hosting what they call a Cine Salon. “Catch some of the most subversive and surreal films of the past 50 years. In this series, works by leading directors—including Buñuel, Malle, and Godard—are united by one common thread: the imaginative French screenwriter Jean-Claude Carrière.” Dates include Tuesdays, June 2, 9, 16, 23 & 30 and July 7, 14, 21 & 28. Get more info on the website.

Bastille Day

Bastille Day, France’s national holiday, takes place on July 12 this year. New York will host a street fair on 60^th street between Fifth and Lexington Avenues from noon to 5 p.m. “This year’s edition will include an even greater line-up of exciting events, with new activities including a champagne tasting in our beautiful Skyroom, free film screenings for kids and families, and talented performers making their Bastille Day debut on the main stage,” says the website. Get more info via the link.

By Wendy Rose Gould

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