Don't contact your ex, especially if you have nothing to say.0
Why is my ex boyfriend who didn’t want to be my boyfriend sending me emails telling me we should get martinis? Why? Why? “He’s probably in a fight with his girlfriend and wants attention from another girl,” said my brother when I posed the question to him. Srsly, I hope I did not date someone that immature.
This brings me to a code of dating conduct that many people -mainly cowards, crazies, weak-willed and outright narcissists- break. Take an average break-up. Two parties are both midly upset, seeing no reason to maintain a strategic relationship or salvage a broken friendship, they part ways. After some time, the hard feelings dissipate, they move on and while it’s still slightly awkward to run into them at Union Square farmer’s market, it doesn’t cause a tailspin. Just because it’s copsetic doesn’t mean a frienship or rekindling love affair should ensue.
Then, inevitably, one person gets lonely or stoned or whatever and wonders “what if” or “what’s she doing” or blah, blah, blah, and calls. Then the callee – in this case me – is like “Oh, my god. WTF? Why is HE calling ME. I mean, as if. Right?” So basically, the dating code of conduct says don’t call your ex especially if you have nothing to say. If you really want to see how he is doing, that’s why God invented Facebook. Do some light internet stalking, get it out of your system, and move away from the urge. Plus, you have better things to do, remember?
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